On love: words that take your breath away

Love is not who you were expecting, love is not who you can predict. Maybe love is in New York City, already asleep, and you are in California, Australia, wide awake. Maybe love is always in the wrong time zone, maybe love is not ready for you. Maybe you are not ready for love. Maybe love just isn’t the marrying type. Maybe the next time you see love is twenty years after the divorce, love is older now, but just as beautiful as you remembered. Maybe love is only there for a month. Maybe love is there for every firework, every birthday party, every hospital visit. Maybe love stays- maybe love can’t. Maybe love shouldn’t.

Love arrives exactly when love is supposed to, and love leaves exactly when love must. When love arrives, say, “Welcome. Make yourself comfortable.” If love leaves, ask her to leave the door open behind her. Turn off the music, listen to the quiet, whisper, “Thank you. Thank you for stopping by.”

— From Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye’s presentation of their realistic view of love.

On why Sir Arthur Conan Doyle got the modern woman right and we haven’t

Source: The Guardian

Even the King, who has every reason to fear her, has complete faith in her decent nature once she’s promised to him that she won’t interfere with his life. This is what launches Doyle’s story well ahead of its time. Much is made of Adler outwitting Holmes, and that’s fair enough. What’s more impressive is Doyle showing that unconventional habits, self-determination, and a history of impressive romantic conquests — Doyle makes a point of mentioning that Irene Adler enchants just about every man in sight — are just that. They do not imply low character, criminal tendencies, or inferior intellect. They aren’t the tools of a gold digger or an opportunistic seductress who’s waiting to unleash her apparently lethal sexuality on the hero. A clever, unconventional, take-charge, and seductive woman is, unreservedly, a good thing.

Why can’t recent Sherlock Holmes adaptation get Irene Adler right?

I’ve seen ‘The Hobbit’ thrice and it’s still awesome

The Hobbit movie poster, dwarves

 I don’t think I could get enough of The Hobbit, of Bilbo and company, or of Thorin, the hot dwarf. I’m still gathering my thoughts on the film and the viewing experiences, but so far:

  • This is not a film for kids, and thank God for that!
  • This film is meant to be seen on the big screen…the biggest one can find in town. In 3D.
  • I’m liking it better than Fellowship of the Ring, which I have now found to be a bit too saccharine after having seen it a dozen times. The Frodo-Sam bromance is just too much.
  • While we may never know how Guillermo Del Toro would have treated the film, I’m glad that Peter Jackson still took over and retained the look and feel of the original trilogy. 
The Hobbit, Dwarves, Fili, Ori, Oin, Bilbo
  • In Middle Earth, each species/race embodies a certain socio-economic or educational level and temperament from the human world. 
  • Thorin is the new Aragorn, but I’m glad that his part in the story doesn’t have a love story arc.
The Hobbit - Dwarves looking at Thorin
  • Kili is designed to be the dwarf version of Legolas…but I guess girls always prefer blondes with no facial hair. 
  • That awesome moment when Thorin and company sing the Misty Mountain song.
  • Thorin Oakenshield. Richard Armitage is brilliant, not to mention hot, as the exiled dwarven king.
The Hobbit - Thorin Oakenshield, Richard Armitage
  • Read the book and be glad that the filmmakers were faithful to the source material.  
  • I had nearly thought the film was about Thorin until Bilbo showed bravery against the wargs. 

The Hobbit - Meeting the elves

Discovering ‘The Vicar Of Dibley’

I should have discovered this sitcom a long time ago, and not just when Richard Armitage has finally made it big amongst international audiences via The Hobbit.

Dawn French is brilliant in this British sitcom as the woman vicar in a sleepy English village called Dibley, and I don’t think that in the hands of another comedienne the character would have fared better nor just as well, for that matter.

If you have about an hour to spare, it had better be spent watching this video. It’s worth it, especially if you are of the persuasion that the Bridget Joneses of this world have a fair chance at snagging that elusive Mr. Darcy.

And for the so-called irony challenged:

Resolutions for 2013

Don’t sweat the small stuff. There are bigger battles out there and time is too precious to spend on things that will not matter in the long run.

Avoid drama at all cost, if possible. Corollary to the point above, be it your own or someone else’s drama, there’s no need to be suckered into issues that one, two, or five years from now you would just laugh about anyway. Avoid drama queens and attention w#ores, too. 
Read at least one book per month. Rediscover the love for reading and the much-needed learning it affords oneself, plus  the wisdom that eventually makes for intelligent conversations.
Show up. It does not matter whether the purpose is to participate or just to make an appearance, but what matters is to be there and make oneself count, or to witness the events that unfold. 
Smile. Life has so much be thankful for and be happy about. Or when one finds oneself with nothing much to be grateful for, at least, smile and keep others guessing. 
Choose the company one keeps carefully. There are people whose presence suck the marrow out of one’s life; there are those whose seemingly good intentions one has to be absolutely wary about; and then there are those whose presence makes one feel that the time spent with them are worthy of the moments that one can never get back. Stick to those who are worthy of one’s trust and esteem and leave the shallowness of high-schoolers behind.
Set boundaries. You do not have to be best friends with everyone, for at the end of the day, people are merely  individuals who have their own lives to live and goals to pursue. 
Drink moderately. Sweet Jesus, do I know that by now! Hah! 
Travel. To quote Gandalf: The world is not in your books and maps; it’s out there!

Work hard. People may argue until they are blue in the face that the way to make it in this life is not necessarily to work hard but to work smart, but there just is no substituting for the former. Success takes planning, thinking, and a lot of effort, not office-politicking. 
Take care of oneself. Do not feel guilty about getting pampered, buying that pair of shoes, being and eating healthy, signing up for gym classes. When all you’ve got is you, wouldn’t it be fabulous to get the love that you deserve from the person that matters most to you?
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Learn. Whether it’s a new language, a new skill, a musical instrument, a technical knowledge. One never knows when a new ability would come in handy.
Get active. Run, dance, walk; join zumba classes; sign up for that gym membership; swim; do yoga; lift weights; play your favourite sport. The options are just about as endless as your capacity to take that extra serving of dessert, so your body will need all the help it can get from a bit of moving about.