Category: Best Practice

How to deal with rude people

I was still reeling with a rude treatment that I had to deal with lately when I came across this interesting post from Pick the Brain:

“…let rejection roll off your back. The key to this is not taking it personally.

“At least 95% of the time when a person reacts negatively to you it has absolutely nothing to do with you personally. Most likely they’re having a bad day or you caught them at the wrong moment. Maybe they’ve been harassed by people before and assume you have bad intentions. Or maybe they’re just not that cool and you wouldn’t gain much from knowing them anyways.”

The last reason struck a chord simply because there are people who are just plain rude and crude, and associating with them will never be beneficial to you in any way. Let the rude treatment slide, but remember that there are other ways to get even, such as dissociation, indifference, or not patronizing their business (and if you care about your friends–tell them how bad the rude dude’s business’ service is). See, unless you have reached Steve Jobs’ mythical status, there is absolutely no reason to be a jerk.

Romance, Security and Green IT

Interruptions are costly

poetryMartin Luther King, Jr. surely didn’t refer to Attention Deficiency Disorder, but his words resonates especially in this age of hyper-barrage of messages and stimuli. We are interrupted for help. We are interrupted for attention. We are interrupted by some who need to feel good about themselves.

We allow interruptions because that is all we can let into our lives and the short in-betweens when we are not running after our dreams. But interruptions are costly as hell.

The major problem of life is learning how to handle the costly interruptions — the door that’s slammed shut, the plan that got sidetracked, the marriage that failed, or that lovely poem that didn’t get written because someone knocked on the door.

— from the draft of a sermon that Martin Luther King Jr. was to deliver on the day he was assassinated in 1968

What is futzing?

It is a new word that just got added to my vocabulary. Futzing refers to the way by which people gather useless information as they aimlessly wander through social connections and interactions while avoiding tasks and duties.

According to Horsepigcow, futzing happens to be the future of work as those who spend most of their waking/working hours futzing about bridge the communication gap among various disciplines. Moreover, futzers have the ability to build their own professional networks and build credibility that prove useful when the need for other people or groups need new connections.

One caveat: you have to have an enormous amount of information to futz about. Things build upon themselves, and as you futz through your connections, you should be able to get and give various sorts of knowledge, useful or not. You can’t be a considered a good futzer–ergo, not credible–unless you have siphoned a nearly inexhaustible amount of knowledge in your aimless wandering through networks and connections. Your potential to earn more is directly proportional to your futzing ability.

Working in IT and killing off the hyphen